8 things you NEED to know about students with ADHD

8 things you need to know about your students with ADHD

As teachers, we all know what it is like to have THAT child. The one who doesn't listen. The one who can't sit still. The one who never seems to have pencil. The one who interrupts. The one who could do the work, if only he/she tried.

I'm a teacher, and I'm also a mom to THAT child. The one who didn't hear the directions. Again. The one who is still sitting in his chair when everyone else is in line, ready to go. The one who isn't done with the task yet. The one who the teacher looks at and thinks, "He is so smart. If he would only DO his work, he'd be amazing."

Well, he is amazing. He is so sweet, smart, and creative that I am constantly in awe of the person he is growing up to be. Of course I say that, because I'm his mom, but I try my hardest to look at him through my teacher eyes, too, so I can see what his teachers see.

My son has ADHD. I'm here to say that I didn't understand all those sweet kiddos when I started teaching.  Yes, I could see the differences, but I thought, surely, if they only tried harder, they'd get there. If they ate better food, went to bed on time, or just played less video games, they'd be successful. As a teacher, it's easier to find outside reasons why the child isn't successful than it is to look at our teaching practices and ask if there is something we could do better.

After over a decade of teaching kids with ADHD, my own child was diagnosed. It had been hinted by teachers, social workers, and even the doctor, but I didn't see it. How could my child, my amazing child, the one who could read and ride a bike at four years old, the one who could play with his toys quietly for hours, have ADHD? Well folks, I'm here to tell you...the struggle is real. The differences are real, they are debilitating, and they are just as present at home and everywhere else as they are at school.

I've heard a lot of opinons from colleagues and friends about ADHD, and as a teacher and a mom of an ADHD kiddo, it's clear how lacking our own training and even the continuing professional development on the subject is. Me? I took one special education class that covered so many disabilities and behavioral disorders that it was really easy to confuse them, let alone remember all of the acronyms tossed around in education! ODD, ADHD, IEP, IDEA, ADA, PTSD, SST . . . the list is ridiculous!

So, from a teacher, from a mom, here's what I'd like to share about our ADHD experience. Watching your own child struggle, but knowing that your child is also the one who is difficult for the teacher... well, that's a hard one to take.  Before going on, I have to say that my son has been blessed with the most caring, amazing teacher this year, and she has made all the difference in his attitude and performance in school. We will forever be grateful she came into our lives. ❤️

1.  The decision to medicate or not can be a heart-breaking choice that many parents are very conflicted over. 

There isn't a right choice, and it is not your place to judge a family's decision. It is a very personal decision for every family, and it takes a lot of consideration. Sometimes medications work well for a while, and then suddenly the dose is all wrong. Sometimes medications cause terrible side effects, and other times they are amazing and there are no issues at all. Some parents don't want to medicate.  Some parents want to get to the root of the problem naturally, if possible. Some families combine medication with natural products. Some families regularly meet with a therapist. There are so many ways to tackle ADHD, but the road can be long, and the parents need the teachers to understand that they are trying. Even if you don't see the results immediately, please know they they are trying. From talking with families with ADHD at school and in my personal life, I have seen the frustration, the apprehension, and the conflicted thoughts. I have felt them myself. Yes, I want my child to do well. Yes, I wish I could get to the bottom of why my child has such trouble with attention, with getting that work done. Yes, we have tried every food elimation diet around. We've taken the vitamins.  We've tried the essential oils.  I have read countless books. All helped a little bit, but nothing has ever been an overnight success, and I can't just "fix" my child so he will sit better in a chair for his teacher.

2.  ADHD is not caused by poor discipline at home.

Yes, it seems like some kids with ADHD just need some structure, some rules. Let me tell you, we have structure and routines at our house. Without it, things just do not happen. My son gets almost no screen time, and he earns that with our incentive program through completing tasks such as homework, putting away clothes, or staying seated at the table during mealtime. He gets a lot of physical activity. He gets enough sleep. He eats well. He has rules. When he doesn't do work on time, it is not because I have raised a disrespectful child whose intention each morning is to go to school and make his teacher miserable. It is because he needs more time. He will always need more time.

3.  Sending the child elsewhere will not make a child with ADHD work faster.

Why would a teacher send a child away because he/she is too slow? If the child is not able to complete work with his/her teacher there, that child will be even less likely to do it when yelled at, shamed, and sent away to work in the classroom of another teacher. All the teacher has done here is lost the child's trust, and that makes him/her much less likely to want to work for the teacher the next time. Creating fear in a child with ADHD is not going to create productivity.

If there is a resource room that has been agreed upon by the teachers and family, then allowing the child to work somewhere else might be a good option. If you are sending the child to another room because you don't want to deal with him/her, then you have shut that child down and told him/her that you can't be bothered to find another way.

Students with ADHD need extended time to complete tasks, but this does not mean they are not trying!

4.  Every child with ADHD is different.

Yes, every child you teach will be different. Just as we learn the strengths and weaknesses of all of our students, just as we learn their quirks, we should learn what works for each student.  There is not a "quick fix" for ADHD. We can't just add one or two accomodations such as touch strips to a desk or a wiggle stool and feel like we've done our part. If the child is older, you can ask him/her what helps.  If you are dealing with a younger child, ask the parents what methods they have. If they don't have any in place yet, you can try some together.

5.  ADHD does not just affect a child in the classroom.

Do you notice if your students with ADHD have friends? Do they interact with others or do they wander the playground alone? Do they play well with friends of the same age? ADHD affects every aspect of this student's life, and while you are seeing the class behavior, it's important to understand just how hard every task is. Getting up and getting dressed? Eating breakfast? Brushing those teeth? Getting school supplies together? Being on time? Every morning, that child and his/her parent(s) have a lot of tasks that are just plain harder for a kid with ADHD. Then school happens, then homework time, then bedtime. Do you know how hard it is for some kids with ADHD to go to sleep? Parents use every tactic in the world to help these amazing, powerful, active brains to calm down. Weighted blankets, essential oils, herbs, special baths. So, when you deal with ADHD in the class, please remember that this child deals with it everywhere, everyday. It is exhausting, and it is hard for them to understand, so be empathetic. After all, at the end of the day, they are children with sweet, sensitive hearts.

6.  Having ADHD doesn't mean the child is less smart.

My child consistently scores in the very top percentile of his age group. He speaks, reads, and writes in two languages. He's a great reader and remembers the smallest details from what he has read, even though math is his favorite subject. For years, his teachers have told me how smart he is, how quick, how much he understands. I understand their frustration when he does not produce the work he should. Struggling to produce written work is very common with ADHD, but it does not mean the child is dumb or does not understand. It means that the child will have a harder time than other students showing you his/her ideas, but it does not mean that those ideas aren't there.  Please do not give up on a student with ADHD or assume he/she is not learning just because that learning looks different. When students learn differently, they need teachers who teach differently.

Learning differently doesn't mean that students aren't learning.

7.  Students with ADHD want to behave correctly.

A lot of teachers would love to have ADHD students show up to school ready to sit and work. What we have to know is that these kids HAVE to move. It's like they are driven by an internal motor that will not slow down. If you think it is irritating to you, think about what the child feels like when he/she cannot stop it but knows that it will cause problems. Students with ADHD are not fidgety or slow to annoy you, and in fact, my son often cries at home about how he wishes he could just be "normal." Every noise, smell, or movement is a distraction that he feels compelled to investigate. He knows what he is supposed to be doing, but actually doing it means ignoring the distraction. Kids with ADHD struggle with impulse control, so even though they know what is expected, they have a much harder time actually getting there.

8.  Multi-step directions are harder for kids with ADHD.

If you are giving directions while walking through the room passing out papers, you might just have to repeat those directions for your students with ADHD. Often, they can remember the first step, but they will forget everything else they are supposed to do. If you are talking and moving and doing other things, they may not even hear the first step. My son needs to be near me and focusing on me to hear my instructions. If the tv is on, if I yell from another room, or if I give too many steps, he won't start on the first one. He just will not even hear me. Move close to your inattentive students, make sure they are with you, and break it down for them if you need to. They can do everything you want them to do, but they can't do it if they didn't hear the directions.

So, what can we do?  

1.  Provide movement.

This is the number one thing that helps my son. He can't sit still for 3 hours. Really, what child should? But he cannot. In classes with movement and interaction, a change of pace, and fun, engaging activities, he thrives. In classes where he is expected to sit still in his chair and complete worksheet after worksheet, he shuts off. The work doesn't get done, the teacher gets mad, he gets frustrated, and it all goes downhill from there.

Read HERE to find some ways to incorporate movement into your classroom.

2.  Praise your students.

A lot of schools have student awards, and I believe in awarding responsible behavior. However, a lot of students with ADHD will never win no matter how hard they are trying, because by nature, they are impulsive, slow to start, slow to finish, and it just seems like they aren't following the rules. It may not always look like it, but they are trying, and to never get recognized for their efforts, even if those efforts don't look like everyone else, is hard.

I'm a huge supporter of student incentives. And no, I don't feel like we need to celebrate successes that are not real. However, when a student does well, a quick pat on the back, a sticker, a stamp, or a note on the desk can go a long way. I know this isn't something I should have to say, but when your child comes home defeated day after day because he's trying his very best, to the point of exhaustion, and the teacher never says a kind word . . .  it takes the joy out of learning very quickly. Try to build the child up by recognizing his accomplishments or his effort rather than tear him down because he doesn't function exactly as the other students do.

3.  Provide choice.

We've probably all heard the quote that has been attributed to Albert Einstein : The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Well, if we are doing the same tasks over and over, if we aren't getting the results we wanted from ALL students, then why do we keep doing it that way? Of course, there will be tasks that all students must do, but if a student struggles to write, can they do a skit? If they can't sit and read quietly, can they read out loud to a classmate? If copying spelling words down is not effective (because is it really the most effective way for all students anyways?), is there a way that the student can practice the words out loud or with manipulatives? There are many ways to get to the desired goal, and the more options you offer, the more students you'll get to master that task. You'll help your students with ADHD, but you'll see others thrive, too, when they can learn with their preferred learning style.


4.  Work with parents and colleagues.

Parents can be your best ally, and they can also be really difficult to work with. But, in the end, both the teacher and the parent are responsible for the education of the child, so reach out to them. Don't assume that they are not doing anything at home. Maybe they aren't . . . but maybe they are doing everything they can while constantly trying to find other ways to help.  The point is, you cannot assume. You might find that the parents are a great source of help in finding ways to be successful with the student. If they are not so helpful, then ask your school counselor for strategies that might be effective.

teachers and parents work together to help students with special needs

5.  Be caring.

We might not see it, but our words, our sighs of exasperation, our tone of voice can crush a little heart. The bedtime tears over the day's events are heart-breaking. To know, as a teacher, that your child has caused a teacher to lose his/her patience is awful. To know, as a mom, that your child has been treated in a way you would never wish any child to be treated is worse. So when we are irritated, when we are fed up, please don't let this be the expression we use with a child. Let's be the adult, be caring, and know that this sweet child is not trying to make us miserable.

When you do have to correct an child with ADHD, you can do so respectfully. A quiet conversation at a convenient time can help you address behaviors much better than yelling at the student in front of the entire class. Building a relationship is important with all students, but it can be the key to a successful year with a student with ADHD.

6.  Take time to figure out ADHD.

Because we are often so lacking in professional development for special needs students, we need to take time to understand what is happening. ADHD can look like laziness, misbehavior, or lack of caring, and if we treat it as such, we are missing an opportunity to educate that child. By understanding what makes the ADHD child act that way, we can begin to see from his/her perspective, and we'll get why our directions, our worksheets, our manner of doing certain things might not be effective for those students.

I love this YouTube channel by Jessica McCabe. She is an adult with ADHD that helps educate people about the struggles of ADHD while providing some helpful tips for dealing with particular behaviors. This video is a great place to start.

Click here to watch this video from How to ADHD.

Do you have any tips on how to help students with ADHD? Share them below!

Have fun in French class this Halloween!

Halloween is one of my favorite holidays, but it does make the kids a little wacky. Why not bring some holiday fun into your class with thematic vocabulary and activities?

Here are some of my favorite ideas for Halloween.

1.  Use a Halloween word wall and have a scavenger hunt in your building. 

Students will love moving around, and it's a great way to recruit future French students. :)

2.  Listen to Halloween music. 

Here are a few of my favorites:

C'est l'Halloween 

Le Rock de la sorcière

And my son's favorite :
La chanson des squelettes

3.  Play Bingo!

Everything you need is here in my Halloween Bingo game.  Click HERE to see it in my Teachers Pay Teachers store.

4.  Write creatively.

Whether you do individual writing, round robin stories, or do a snowball activity, Halloween writing is so much fun!