Let your students grade you!

Do you want to become a better teacher?  Of course you do!  You are already a great teacher, but wouldn't it be nice to see yourself from the kids' perspectives?  Well, you can!  Let your students grade you.  Be prepared to hear how great you are, but be prepared to hear some interesting ideas about your clothing, why you shouldn't drink coffee in the morning, or how you talk a lot and waste class time.  (Yes, all three of those are true for me!)

I love to do this, because I have been teaching for a long time and I know I'm a great teacher, but despite all of my preparation and hard work, I am human.  I get tired.  I might be kind of sarcastic.  (I've REALLY worked on that one...) Some years, I have seen as many as 160 students in a day.  It's really hard to listen to everyone, all day, and still be on point for that last class of 35.  But hey, that IS my job, and sometimes I need to be told by my kids what they need from me.  I tell them all day what they need to do to be successful.  Isn't it only fair that they would get to tell me what I need to do for them to be successful?

Here's a real sample from my class.  I love the honesty here.  Like I said, no one is perfect, and this student sure lets me know what I'm good (and not so good) at.  :)

FYI: I would not say I have a weird sense of humor, but I do LOVE dumb jokes.  And my handwriting... well, I guess I did know that one!

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Improve your teaching by having your students grade you!  Find out how to get this FREE teacher grade card here!

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I hope you enjoy this and find it helpful!  If you want, you can even pack the students' finished sheets  in your summer box of things to do (mine usually doesn't get touched until well into July) and you can read it while sitting on your deck in the sun with your favorite beverage.  It's what I always do.  :)

No More Entitled Youth

This blog post discusses the scary behavior changes I've noticed in the past few years teaching.  Teachers and parents, READ THIS to get some great ideas for how to manage your child's behavior in school and at home.

I've been teaching long enough to have taught two generations of kids.  I'm sad to say that I am seeing big, big changes in the kids raised today, and as a teacher, as a parent, as an adult, it is alarming.  I'm talking about entitled youth.  You know them: They don't wait for anything.  Their parents don't want them punished.  EVER.  Consequences?  Yeah, right!  Everything is done for them, they get a medal for participating, and everyone deserves as many chances as they want.

It's a touchy subject, but as the adults here, we need to stop and look around at what is happening.  What are we doing?  Where did the parent or teacher with authority go?  And worse...what are we setting these kids up for?

Imagine this:  You are at work and you don't do something by a deadline.  Does your boss give you more time?  Does he/she give you a bonus because you made it to work that day at all?  No?

Well, imagine this school setting:  A school has a reward planned for students who meet basic behavioral expectations.  Let's say the reward is an ice cream party for the last 30 minutes of the day. Perhaps the behavior expectation is that students can't serve detention for the quarter or maybe they aren't tardy to school for a semester.  The day of the reward comes, and a mother is mad that her child will not be participating, so she raises such a stink that the school backs down.

What lesson has the mother taught that child?  Several, sadly.
1.  Rules don't matter, because they should have exceptions for you.
2.  Adults don't have any authority over a mad mother.
3.  If you get in trouble, just tell your mom to fix it.  Consequences aren't for you!
4.  Getting a reward you don't deserve is okay.

This is just not okay!  I find it so sad that a parent would be more upset at the idea that her child would not attend the ice cream party than the fact that her child consistently chose to break rules.  As a teacher, I see this sort of behavior so often, and I have to be honest, some of the students I'm seeing are not living in reality anymore.

Imagine this classroom:  A teacher plays a game with her students and gives a prize to the winner(s).  At the end of the game, half of the class approaches her for a prize, because they participated.  Wait!  Are there prizes in life for just participating?  Sometimes, yes, but mostly, no.  Prizes are given to winners.  Participating in life is just expected of us.

Imagine this morning situation:  A student gets to school and realizes he/she has forgotten to bring a lunch.  The student goes to the teacher and asks to call home so Mom or Dad can bring lunch.  Wait!  Do the mom and dad work?  Do they have to drop everything and jump to the rescue of the child?  Does the school not have a cafeteria?  Is the child's day more important than the parent's?

Imagine this homework assignment:  A project is due, and although the teacher has been monitoring the class's progress and has emailed a student's parent that the child is not making any progress, on the due date, the project is turned in, very well done, and seemingly done by an adult.   Surely this parent didn't do the project, did he/she?  Well, sadly, this happens, too.

I'm writing this because I am a teacher and I do see this happening.  However, I'm also a mother, and I'm not perfect.  I want my child to win the prize.  I want my child to participate in the ice cream social.  I think school lunches are terribly unhealthy and disgusting and I want my child to eat a good lunch.  Lastly, I want my child to turn in a great project and get an A.

But...I also know that I NEED my child to put in his best effort.  I NEED my child to respect adults and follow rules.  I NEED my child to know that I have a very busy life and I cannot drop everything to wait on him all of the time. I NEED my child to do the learning on his own.  So, I let my child receive consequences from an adult when he breaks the rules.  I let my child see someone win a prize.  Doesn't that give him something to aspire to?  I let my child eat a school lunch.  He didn't forget his lunch again!  I let him get the grade he deserved on an assignment.  As a teacher, I also him do some extra work at home to practice that same skill he didn't seem to want to do at school.

I think it is time for parents to start being the parents again.  No, please don't read this as me saying all parents need to change!  I'm also not saying that parents don't love their children or should never help them when needed.  It seems like some parents want to show their children how much they love them by taking away any unpleasantness in their lives.  We may think we are helping, but in the long run, we are raising kids who grow up and get hit hard with reality.  It hurts way more the older we get, so teaching the hard lessons at a young age is that much more important!

So I propose this:

1.  Let your child fail.  No, not fail 9th grade, necessarily, but failing a spelling test or serving a detention for a missing assignment will not be the end of the world.  Not participating in a reward that he/she didn't deserve will teach your child to do his/her best and it will make a victory that much more appreciated.

2.  When your child fails, be there to support him or her.  Give a hug, do some encouraging, come up with a game plan TOGETHER.

3.  Teach your child to try his/her best and then be proud of the real accomplishments.  Is math hard for your child?  Did he move from progressing to proficient or from a C- to a C+?  Those deserve celebrating!  Don't do the work for your child, but by all means, be involved and work WITH your child.

4.  Teach them to be independent.  Does your middle schooler or high schooler still call you to bring things to school?  Teach him to make lists, organize his backpack the night before, and use a planner to keep track of important information.  Maybe give your child a one-time emergency call where he/she can call you to bring something from home.  Just don't make it an every week thing, or your child will never learn to become organized.

5.  Does your child whine if she doesn't win?  Practice things that are difficult for her.  Find activities she excels at so she might get a sweet taste of her own victory.  Most importantly, discuss what the winner might have done to prepare for winning.

6.  Work with your child's teacher and not against him or her.  Reach out to the teacher.  Speak to him or her like a professional.  Admit where your child has weaknesses and ask for help.  We probably see a side of your child that you don't see.  I ask my son's teacher about his work habits because I don't know what he is like in a room of 20 kids.  I know what he is like at home.  Does he do his homework for me?  Yes, because I am one adult in charge of one child.  That is a pretty great ratio.  When it is one adult to 20 children, I can't say that my child always does what he needs to.  I trust his teacher and I want her to tell me how he does on his own.  After all, as much as I love my son, I don't want to raise a child who will be living with me when he is 30!

7.  Don't make excuses for your child.  Did your child not do his homework?  Don't explain to the teacher all of the activities your child does as a reason for your child to not do what is expected.  So your child has sports practice after school.  If he/she cannot fulfill school requirements, maybe those sports need to be put on hold until the time is right.

I'd love to hear what you all think about this!  Teachers and parents, please leave a comment or share on Facebook.  This is so important and we all are working together to raise this generation.  Let's help them become independent and learn how to make good choices.

Mme R's most popular items

Yay!  It's time for the Teacher Appreciation Sale!  No one knows how hard teachers work more than a fellow teacher.  The Teachers Pay Teachers Sitewide sale is on May 3rd and 4th.  Are you ready?  I'm filling up my cart right now!  Don't forget that all of your purchases are tax deductible, so get excited about ending your year or look forward to beginning the next one and find some great resources!

I've linked up with Jen from Teaching in the Tongass to bring you the top wish listed items from my store that you definitely want to check out!

French menu project for beginning students

We all love projects, and we especially love anything that involves little prep.  It's no surprise that this is my top wish-listed item and my best seller!  This resource is available in French and English and comes with a handy vocabulary list that you can use as enrichment or as an essential tool for a food unit.

Click here to see the menu project on TpT.

Back to school icebreakers for secondary classes. English and French versions inlcuded.

This one is awesome for back to school!  It is great for French classes or any other secondary class, because all the ice breaker activities are available in English and French!  It includes a Find Someone Who...activity, 2 versions of a Would You Rather...? activity, and a few ideas for writing prompts that you can use all through the first week!

Click here to find these ice-breakers at my TpT store.

Weather unit project for French class

This project is my personal favorite for beginners, because it integrates geography into the lesson with no extra work for the teacher!  It is available in French and English and there is a handy pre-writing page that guides the students through the writing.  It's great for true beginners, but it can be a fun review for more advanced students, too!

Click here to see this weather project.

Thanks so much for stopping by!  Happy shopping!

Want to see other top wish listed items from Teachers Pay Teachers?  Check them out at Jen's link-up here: